Set Yourself Up for Success

With the new year right around the corner, this week is a great time for a little reflection. Many of you might have already been planning your New Year goals way in advance, months ago. Many of you are starting to think about it now and many of you like to wait for New Years Eve or even New Years day.

Wherever you are at in the process of your New Years resolution/reflection, I wanted to let you in on a little secret that works and will surely set you up for success. 

I like to call it The M Word. Its strong like the F word but has the power to change your life. Next to the F word itself, its my favorite word. Its also something you have FULL control over and that you can have a lot of fun with!

Manifestation. 

Simply put "your thoughts create your reality".

This concept is nothing new, its been translated many times to many groups in many different ways and formats. This is great because the belief is found everywhere and you can find a dialogue that speaks to you personally.

Its NOT some "hippie magic" exclusive to us light workers. I personally infuse my hippie vibe into this concept because thats what works for me. I will definitely use words like universe, energy, spirit, vibe etc...because its the way I think and how I relate. Regardless of what resource you find, what dialogue you identify with or what guru you go with - the concept is the same.

"Your thoughts create your reality" 

Your beliefs become your thoughts, those thoughts become your words and your words become your actions. Habits are created from those actions and those habits become your values. Those values create your intentions and your intentions make up your energy. Your energy is in everything you do! Your attitude is made up of that energy and that energy creates your reality.

"Energy flows where your intention goes" 

I believe EVERYTHING has energy, everything around us. All of it. You are always radiating energy. You are always putting something out there. That "something" being your energy and the "out there" I am referring to, being the universe or those around you. Make sense? 

SO! As we are in self reflection mode saying hello to the new year, lets look at our personal dialogue....our thoughts....our energy. 

Judging by social media - this last year was a rough one for many of you. Which I totally can relate to, but hating on 2016 has become a popular social media trend, hashtag, T-shirt idea, etc...and hating it isn't going to get anyone anywhere. That energy isn't going to make this next year any better, its going to keep you stuck in the same cycle that caused you to have the belief you do about 2016. 

If you want 2017 to be different your thoughts need to be different. 

Although I say that bluntly with complete confidence that your reality about 2016 will most definitely be your reality in 2017, I also don't want to take away from those of you who might be hurting or still grieving through some of the difficulty that came from 2016.

Understand that this topic is something I am very familiar with and that what 2016 was for you is what 2015 was for me. Ive been there and I feel for you, my intention is to help guide you the same way others helped guide me. Together we can rearrange your perspective - change your thoughts, attitude and dialogue - and move positively forward with a fresh new perspective into the new year. 

Maybe in the year 2016 you experienced loss, change, fear, doubt...maybe all of the above? Whatever happened, happened. Its over, its done, its in the past. Honor where you have been, where you are at now, take a breath and lets move forward. Lets MANIFEST some magic in 2017 by reorganizing our thoughts and using the M word to our advantage. 

"The universe does not know the difference between past, present, and future. It is always responding to your current feelings and delivering you more of the same." 

In the last few years I have learned a lot about the art of acceptance. I have mastered the art of manifestation and I have developed a really kick ass relationship with the universe, my spirit, my many guides and my inner guidance system. My journey of self discovery continues and I approach every loss, change, fear and/or doubt as an opportunity rather than a disappointment.

Its no longer defeat, its acceptance and its really fucking beautiful. By changing my energy around those difficult experiences I have manifested a really great life that I am proud of and excited about.  

So how do we turn things like loss, change, fear and doubt into opportunity? How exactly do we make those kind of experiences positive? 

We change our dialogue, our attitude and our thinking. We shift the energy around each experience. Like I mentioned above....Beliefs become our thoughts - thoughts become our words - words become our actions - actions become habits - habits become our values - values create our intentions - our intentions make up our energy - our energy creates our reality. 

We start by changing our thoughts. That is the first step. I'll give you some bad ass examples using the difficulties mentioned above...

LOSS: 

This is a tough one. It can be so difficult to make "loss" positive. In the last few years I "lost" my grandma, my marriage, my dad, my sweet Uncle and multiple friendships that mean the world to me. But in no way did I lose anything < theres your change of attitude.

I could easily play the victim, stay stuck, complaining about the hard times I faced. I could focus on the depression I experienced and how much time was wasted in poor choices and pathetic relationships OR I can get real about it and focus on all the positive opportunity available to me by a simple shift in perspective. 

With my sweet grandma and Uncle Tim passing over into a new youthful life, I GAINED the most beautiful, loving, powerful spirit guides that continue to support me everyday. They just do it from a different location and in a different way. Through the experience of loss, I gained a deeper appreciation for life and the precious time we have with our loved ones. I gained a new soul sister and really special friendship with my Aunt Lisa. 

With the "loss" of my ex I GAINED my life back. I let go of a very toxic relationship and the universe helped get me to where I am now by focusing on positivity and detoxing those bad vibes out of my life.

I gained countless perspective, clarity and a fresh new energy through letting all that go. Through this detox I "lost" many friends and (with the exception of a few) his whole family. I said goodbye to many but in no way did I "lose" anything or anyone.

I GAINED a new family, a new circle of friends and a deeper love for the true friends and family that continue to keep in touch.

I manifested Mason by focusing on what I wanted out of life and out of a relationship. I worked my ass off on my personal issues looking deeply into the kind of person I wanted to be. I went on a personal self love journey for 2 years and figured myself out.

I focused on the positive possibilities and opportunities rather than what I didn't have, what I had lost or what I wasn't getting.

I read "May Cause Miracles" by Gabrielle Bernstein at the beginning of 2016 and realized how much of my life was glued together by fear. I made a leap of faith and reorganized my life just like I had done to my thoughts and everything worked out.

Together we are starting our own family. Through what would be considered a massive "loss" I gained WAY MORE than I ever could have imagined and coming spring 2017 I get the opportunity of being a mama to our little love, Leona Rose. 

Through the "loss" of my father I learned the very important art of forgiveness. I love the memories we have together and will forever cherish those few years I had my dad in my life.

I am very thankful for what traits I got from him. My sense of humor, appreciation for quotes, love of accents and funny voices and an unapologetic ability to look forward positively. All those are things I got from him.

I genuinely hope one day he can connect inward and begin the journey of love and light, but until that time I forgive him every time he is brought up. I send love and light his way and choose to focus on the positive. 

In all these experiences we get to choose how we react. Your energy decides if they are a negative loss or a positive opportunity.  

CHANGE: 

Oh man have I gotten good at this. And how great is it that I can say that positively with it being a good thing. Change is the only constant. Learning to embrace it and look forward to it with an open mind, heart and welcoming attitude is rad and something I wish for everyone.

Mastering change naturally comes from lots of "loss" but I think I got good at this one from 5 moves in under 6 months...Between where I was sleeping and where I was storing all my shit I became very comfortable with change.

I have also become really great at cleaning and re-organizing any space, over and over and over again...AND I no longer hoard things that have or once had an emotional attachment but no longer have any value. Ive learned to hold onto the positive memories and let go of the physical object. 

I am thankful for this tool because our world is consistently changing and being adaptable but balanced in our values is rad. With a baby on the way and parenting fast approaching I think being adaptable and flexible is a very valuable gift. 

Staying graceful and calm while change does its best to be chaotic is way more fun than giving into that chaos and letting it control you. 

The more you can learn to LOVE change, the more you will embrace it. In turn it will become your friend rather than your enemy. It all has to do with your attitude about it. 

DOUBT/FEAR: 

And heres where this gets super fun! When you change your perspective, your dialogue, your attitude and thus your energy - there is no longer room for these two gems. This really fun way of thinking is fueled solely on confidence and love. You are no longer fueling fear, you are fueling love and love only therefore you have no reason to doubt anything.

At this point in the process you gain that kick ass relationship I was referring to with both yourself and the universe. You can truly trust that everything around you is happening with only the highest intentions and only good can truly come from all of it. 


As simple of a concept it is, we tend to over complicate it. Don't make it messy. Just watch your words, your dialogue and your energy. Start there and the rest will manifest on its own. 

Truthfully, you are going to have another year just like 2016. In life you are going to continue to experience loss, change, fear and doubt. Even those of us who feel we have mastered the art of manifestation will still experience these very normal, real, earthly experiences that make us human.

Just because you "find yourself" and gain a really great way of thinking, being and living doesn't mean shit ever stops hitting the fan. What changes is that instead of it being metaphorical shit thats hitting the fan, you realize that its actually a fabulous opportunity to leave the room and discover something better. 

Negativity exists and always will, I have negative moments daily just like everybody else. Ive just become really good at reorganizing my thoughts, finding the positive and focusing on that. Its a choice I make daily and you can make it too! 

My hope is that this tool is something you keep in your back pocket knowing it is available to you at all times. I hope that in 2017 you become familiar with it enough that you begin making some rad changes and life becomes a super fun experience even when you are "struggling".

With your thoughts being your reality and you having full control over your thoughts, you have full control over your reality. 

What will your reality be in 2017? What are your goals? What are you stepping into and what are you letting go of?  

As you write down your goals or log them away into your brain, look at the dialogue and the words you are using when you speak about it. Is it infused with love or fear? Lack or gratitude? What is the energy behind your goals?  

I love you all dearly and I am thankful for each and every one of you. I am excited for what 2017 has to offer and I cant wait to step into this next year fully with everything I have learned over the last few years. I am grateful for every struggle because it pushed me towards the right people, the right books, my gurus, my guides, my man and my baby. 

Cheers to 2016 and every fabulous year that came before it. 

Much love, 

-Magnolia Rose

When Shit Hits The Fan

The phrase "when it rains, it pours" seems exceptionally fitting for the last few months. Not just because its been conveniently really rainy and stormy here in Salt Lake City, but because shit has hit the fan lately and life's been really messy. 

The last few months have been real difficult, I keep thinking "what the fuck is the universe trying to teach me". The other day when I was sitting in my car because of a flat tire I was reminded of Mercury Retrograde.

Yes, Mercury fucking Retrograde. The biggest douche bag the universe created that stops by our doorstep a few times a year to mess up our world a little bit, keep us on our toes, and remind us of what life is really about. Its a time for growth, change, expansion, patience, and a beautiful amount of chaos. Its like Aunt Flo's bitchy older sister who thinks she knows it all, and secretly she does. 

Ive felt the effects of mercury retrograde before but for me its usually pretty delicate. Ive never really taken it seriously up until now. In the past its just been something to keep in mind. I keep the dates logged away and during that time I don't sign any contracts, call up my internet provider wanting better service, or take anything anyone says that might hurt my feelings to personally. With how the last few months have gone and all the moments i've questioned my karma iv'e started doing more research into Mercury Retrograde. Heres what i've learned! 

So....what the heck is Mercury Retrograde? 

Mercury Retrograde happens a few times a year. Its when Mercury creates the illusion that it is going backwards. When a planet goes retrograde (which they all do), whatever that planet represents gets a little funky.

Mercury for example represents communication, formal contracts, agreements, important documents, travel, transportation, technology, and communication. When Mercury is in retrograde its like a fog of stupidity that everyone experiences and most of us don't realize it. Communication is funky, we take things personally, we say things we dont mean, we have a hard time listening and paying attention. This is a shitty time sign any contracts or agreements. Negotiating, selling, buying etc...is a bad idea during Mercury Retrograde. Deeds, contracts, wills, important documents, and so forth can get jumbly and messy during this time. Technology seems to get messed up periodically during this time. Transportation and travel gets delayed and/or interrupted.

These things that Mercury represents basically get a little out of control when Mercury is in retrograde. 

Gala Darling explains Merucry Retrograde saying "It’s like everyone you know has suddenly gone mad! You might find yourself getting into bizarre arguments about nothing at all, being unable to finish sentences or barely even able to form a coherent thought. Your computer and other electronic equipment is more likely to go on the fritz. You could experience travel delays, too. Double-check your flights and take a book with you to keep you occupied while you wait for the train! We don’t tend to get all the information we need at this time, so it can be hard to make big decisions and it’s not always the best time to sign a contract, either."

Alot of you reading this will really be able to relate to it and some of you will read on thinking I am a nut case. Which is totally cool either way. Its definitely something to consider, maybe keep the dates in mind and pay attention to how you feel during our next Mercury Retrograde (dates below). Because this time around has been exceptionally crazy for me I would love to share my experience with you. 

Like I previously mentioned, the only real effects from Mercury Retrograde that I had experienced up until now was in the technology department. Every time Mercury goes into Retrograde since I have been at my current job the computer, scanner, printer, phone, etc...gets weird. No joke, when it acts up its during Mercury Retrograde. Every time. 

I believe I heard about Mercury Retrograde whilst searching google for advice on fixing our printer when I discovered it might be the universe rather then our really nice Canon printer. So like I said, Mercury Retrograde was something I paid little attention to but did keep it logged away in my mind. 

So to connect the dots. April was a difficult month because of the loss of someone very dear to me, and the abandonment of the relationship I HAD with my father. It was a month of great loss, lots of tears, and troubling feelings. I hadnt realized it was Mercury Retrograde until May hit and shit seemed to just hit the fan. In May I learned that I have Asthma and the horrible Epstein Barr Virus which causes chronic fatigue and mono flair ups (which has been currently active for the last few months). 

Of course the technology at my work got funky, my internet at home was slower then ever, my phone started turning off randomly, imovie deleted all my open projects, downloading final cut to find a solution took two days with all the issues I ran into, etc...etc....you get the idea. Throw in a heavy dose of taking this personally, feeling over emotional, having dumb arguments with those around me, and feeling extremely misunderstood I was experiencing Mercury Retrograde at its finest.

To top it all off I get a flat tire last Monday on my way to work. 

Then last Wednesday I learned some of the most disturbing news to date, which I wont share with the class but I will sum it up with being lied to, manipulated, disrespected, and having my insecurities taken advantage of for a the last year from someone I am very close to. Along with that a chunk of my past was brought into my present which was a very large trigger for trauma that I still haven't dealt with.  

The last few months have just been difficult. I have had a constant knot in my stomach and I feel like everyone close to me has just thrown up all over me. 

So I know this all sounds like I am complaining but stick with me for a bit. I sat in my car with the flat tire and started crying, I felt totally bummed out with everything life's hit me with. After a while I started to smile, which seems odd but I realized this is just life, this is the beauty of it, this is me dealing with my shit, this is me growing, changing, becoming a stronger women. This is just another opportunity. I realized it was just Mercury in Retrograde and there are important life lessons to be learned.

I thought of going with the flow, not reacting, thinking positively, and that as much as this all sucks right now how proud my beautiful Grandma would be of me. I will come out of this stronger. During all these hardships I have also been dealing with the loss of my best friend and greatest supporter. I was experiencing every emotion one could possibly feel at one time. After this is all over I will be a better version of me thats had a bit more practice dealing with the shit life throws at you from time to time. And I will be better prepared for the next round. This is a blessing and Grandma is looking down cheering me on! 

Mercury Retrograde really is a kick in the face but its a great kick in the face. Yes it messes with our daily activities, our emotions, and creates a crazy amount of chaos in our lives but when it goes back to its normal state we are left stronger. Things are out in the open ready to be dealt with. There is a sense of clarity and confidence if you work it to your advantage. 

Mercury Retrograde provides an excellent opportunity to take a step back and re evaluate our lives. I think of it like a great opportunity for a little spring cleaning in all the areas of life. Its a kick ass time to wrap up any projects, contact some old friends, take some time to journal write, clean out your closet (literally and metaphorically), organize your house, stay open to what you are meant to learn during this time, and take some time to take care of YOU!

A DIY spa night might be just what you are needing! Mercury Retrograde is the greatest excuse to sit down, relax, re group, re evaluate, and get back to your roots. 

Think about it like a time for review. 

Mercury Retrograde has been in full swing since May 15, luckily it came to an end June 11. The next dates for Mercury Retrograde is September 17-October 9 2015. 

My advice: Work out your shit so that Mercury Retrograde doesn't have to push you into its BS coming up this September. And if it does, count your blessings, remember you are strong, you are loved, and you will get through this. "Life is a beautiful struggle", appreciate the chaos, and move forward. 

"Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be." 

I love you all, thanks for being here. 

Much love! 

-Magnolia Rose