Today we take a break from the Q&As & chat VALENTINES DAY expectations. Whether we want to admit it or not, we all have had ridiculous expectations surrounding Valentines Day at some point in our lives.
Having high expectations for Valentines Day creates a negative vibe. Pressure is no fun & doesn't leave any space for authentic free flowing energy. Honestly this is something I have found to be true when it comes to relationships in general.
A good example that comes to mind for me personally is when I was in school. How many of us have struggled on tests just because of the pressure of it, I nailed any assignment I put my energy towards but when it came time to take a test, I had a tendency to fail. Or how bout when you are training at a new job? If you are anything like me, you perform better when you aren't being hovered over & watched. I dont know anyone who likes to be micro managed - the same can apply to our relationships.
Trust me on this, I have learned this lesson the hard way many times throughout the years!
I hope the three EASY steps in this post help you release your expectations & shift your perspective to something more positive, productive & way more fun this Valentines Day!
Step #1 - release your expectations
Let go & allow! Valentines Day is all about love, so lets keep that as the focus & not place crazy expectations, pressure, & disappointment on our loved ones.
Instead lets share our gratitude for that person, whether thats your spouse, your partner, your kids, your friends, or your co-workers. Gratitude is the best attitude!
"A person who feels appreciated will always do more than what is expected"
Step #2 - stereotypes are NO fun!
For whatever reason there is a stereotype surrounding Valentines Day that its all about us gal pals. This is a bummer! We expect so much from our guys & too often they get forgotten about. Valentines Day is a day dedicated to LOVE! This in NO way means love for just one gender.
In addition to letting go of your expectations, let go of the thought pattern of "I deserve this" & "its all about me" blah blah blah...Valentines Day is all about love!
"Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, addenda, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears & desires." -Psychology Today
Step #3 - commit to having fun!
Be totally committed to having fun NO MATTER WHAT! If you find yourself getting heated, jealous, sad, etc..come back to this intention. We are all human & sometimes our fears, anxieties, insecurities, & expectations get the best of us. If you find yourself in a negative thought process this Valentines Day come back to what you are committed to.
Put your energy into just having a great day focused on love, gratitude, & fun fun fun!
"When you release expectations, you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be." - Mindy Hale
Lets have a great Valentines day! Practice gratitude, express your love, & be totally committed to having a great time with everyone you love, yourself included!
If you need some date ideas (single or taken) check out my "10 Budget Friendly Date Ideas (Single OR Taken)" blog post.
I absolutely adore all of you & hope you are enjoying this months series!