DAY 3! Today im sharing Tiia Linns Q&A.
Tiia is one hell of a bad ass who from the sounds of it has been through a-lot. This girl is someone to really admire. Shes selfless, creative, & committed. What I love most about her answers is how realistic & honest they are - financial struggles & sacrifice are two things that often come with marriage. Shit happens & we are forced to adapt.
Her strength & commitment deserves a serious shout out!
I have no doubt this babe will go far, her creative spirit & total dedication to not only her husband & family but also her craft is where success comes from.
I encourage you to check out her Etsy shop, she has some incredible talent!
- Q&A with Tiia Lin -
1. What is the status of your current relationship?
I am in a long term relationship
2. How long have you been together together?
3. How did you meet?
Officially, at work. Unofficially, about 20 years ago. He moved in across the street from me, and turns out we've been kind of chasing each other since then. I was even at his house for an after party unbeknownst to either of us about a year before we actually came face to face.
4. If you are in a relationship, do you feel the same way you felt for your partner at the beginning of the relationship? If not, whats changed?
The core of it is still very much there. He still gives me butterflies, but the way we express it is different, and takes more effort now that our family and responsibilities have grown.
5. Define commitment:
Waking up and making the choice to stick it out, especially through the hard stuff. Just like having a job you love, there are going to be bad times. They will last a variable amount of time, but doing it or not is a choice.
6. What makes your relationship unique?
Our back story for one. We know when to let things be, most of the time. Sometimes battles aren't really battles, so why make it one?
7. What has been the most difficult challenge in the relationship?
Oh, boy. We've been through a lot. We've both been in and out of work for the whole of our relationship. We ended up with 2 surprise baby boys. He has had several health issues we've had to contend with. There's been a lot of financial strain.
8. What is the most rewarding aspect of the relationship?
Someone who is there. Someone who notices things about you that others don't.
9. Define unconditional love:
I don't necessarily think it exists. You have to have absolute nots, and those can change over time. They can even change based on a person. Love maybe constant, but it's not static. Like ocean waves. There's high tide and low tide, there are storms and lulls.
10. How important to you, is honesty and trust in relationships? Share your reason for your answer.
It's everything, but you have to define just how honest you want to be. Do you really want your guy to tell you look less than good in an outfit? Do you really want to know every detail of his day? Do you really want to tell him him every little thing about you? Certain things: health, major finance, parenting, etc need to be jointly discussed. But if I want to buy a new mascara with my money I'm probably not going to tell him cause he's probably not going to care.
11. How important to you, is communication in relationships? Share your reason for your answer.
I like communication. I focus more of quality not so much quantity. I'm not a fan of small talk, and I feel like a lot of people care more constantly talking over actually saying something and having a conversation.
12. How do you think fear effects relationships?
Fear can make you rise or make you fall. Fear cause a lot of self sabotage and relationship sabotage. The self talk can lead to really ridiculous behavior that will cause rifts, especially if you aren't being honest with yourself or your other about your fears/insecurities/anxiety.
13. What is your greatest fear about your relationship or relationships going forward?
My greatest fear is it ending. Either from splitting up or one of us passing away. You give someone a piece of you and your trusting them not to go or reject it for a good long while.
14. What have you sacrificed in your relationship?
I quit school to be home with our kids and I've turned down job opportunities because I need to care for him and/or the kids.
15. What do you think of gender stereotypes?
I hate them. So much. I don't even have words to accurately express my hate of them. As long as you are not cause harm to yourself or others or their property, I don't care who you are or what you do. Everyone helps, everyone loves, everyone and I mean everyone is equal.
16. How have you personally grown/what have you learned from the relationship?
That I can do hard things. That I can change things I thought were hard wired to an extent. That I am much more patient than I ever thought I was. And that a deal breaker isn't set in stone.
17. Any regrets?
18. Greatest advice someone ever gave you about relationships?
Love is a verb. It is hard. There is choice involved, especially when the ugly stuff happens.
"The truth is that the more intimately you know someone, the more clearly you’ll see their flaws. That’s just the way it is. This is why marriages fail, why children are abandoned, why friendships don’t last. You might think you love someone until you see the way they act when they’re out of money or under pressure or hungry, for goodness’ sake. Love is something different. Love is choosing to serve someone and be with someone in spite of their filthy heart. Love is patient and kind, love is deliberate. Love is hard. Love is pain and sacrifice, it’s seeing the darkness in another person and defying the impulse to jump ship."
-The Great Camryn
19. What do you think of the saying "you cant learn to love anyone else, unless you love yourself"
There's a truth to it. It can help to have someone love and believe in you. But if someday they need the love and belief will you be able to sustain both of you?
20. What do you love most about yourself?
My stubbornness. I just don't give up that easily.
21. What are your hopes going forward and what do you most look forward to?
Increased financial stability and to travel as a couple and as a family.
22. BEST Valentines Day Date!
Dinner and a live show or movie.
Valentines Day gift idea: a handmade scarf or wrap! Tiia has some absolutely gorgeous pieces in her Etsy shop! Get one for yourself or your loved one this Valentines day. Stay bundled & warm - support creative artists & purchase from a local shop!
Stay tuned for tomorrow!